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I hate friends

In Uncategorized on January 31, 2011 at 8:01 am


Reasons Why We Indians Cannot be Terrorists

In Uncategorized on January 31, 2011 at 7:40 am

Reasons Why We Indians Cannot be Terrorists

2. We would talk loudly and bring attention to ourselves.

3. With free food & drinks on the plane, we would forget why we’re there.

4. We talk with our hands; therefore we would have to put our weapons down.

5. We would ALL want to fly the plane.

6. We would argue and start a fight in the plane.

7. We can’t keep a secret; we would have told everyone a week before doing it.

8. We would have put our Country’s flag on the wind shield.

9. We would have postponed the mission because a cricket match was going on that day.

10. We would have fallen over each other to be in the photograph being taken with the hostages.

What is sexual health? Why is it important?

In Uncategorized on January 31, 2011 at 7:06 am

What is sexual health? Why is it important?
By Lois McGuire, R.N., M.S.N., W.H.N.P.

Earlier this year I went to a STD conference put on by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). The conference highlighted the need to promote sexual health instead of just fighting disease. This is a worldwide shift in approach, and the World Health Organization (WHO) is expected to call on grass roots organizations to work together to achieve the goal of sexual health for all people.

At the conference, the Director of the CDC summed up sexual health this way:

■Sexual health is a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity.
■Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence.
■For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled.
What does this mean for you? A sexually healthy relationship means that you take care of yourself and the other person. You both make sure there are no unintended pregnancies. You both get tested for any diseases to you lower your risk of giving the other person a disease.

Sexual health also means feeling safe in a relationship. Not just physically safe or safe from STDs or unwanted pregnancy, but also emotionally and mentally comfortable in the relationship. You should feel secure enough to allow yourself to be vulnerable and open. It usually takes a long time to get to that place in a relationship.

Do you feel safe in your relationship? Ask yourself these questions:

■Do I feel my partner respects and listens to me?
■Do I feel intimidated by my partner?
■Do I worry about my safety when I’m with this person?
■Do I feel at peace when I am with this person?
■Do I feel lonely when I am with this person?
■Do I feel this person supports my life goals?
■Do I feel proud of this person?

Think about these points before you get into a sexual relationship with anyone. Just like you protect your physical and mental health, you need to protect your sexual health. Take time to get to know people and watch how they interact with others, how they handle situations and pay attention to how you feel around them. Listen to your own instincts. In many relationships it’s all you have to go on, but it’s a powerful resource.

Healthy sexuality is a fundamental right of all people no matter what their sexuality. Achieving openness about the types of sexuality allows for all people to be healthy in body, spirit and mind.

Focusing on sexual health makes so much sense that it’s going to be the direction of this blog going forward. Hence, the blog has a new name, “Your sexual health.”

What is baby oil made from?

In Uncategorized on January 31, 2011 at 6:58 am

If corn oil is made from corn,And vegetable oil is made from vegetables,
What is baby oil made from?

Do you ever wonder why you gave me your e-mail address in the first place?

In Uncategorized on January 31, 2011 at 6:53 am

Do you ever wonder why you gave me your e-mail address in the first place?

Laughing Baby

In Uncategorized on January 28, 2011 at 7:20 am

Laughing Baby

The Un-Divorced

In Uncategorized on January 24, 2011 at 6:58 am

The Un-Divorced
Published: July 30, 2010

JOHN FROST and his wife had been unhappily married for much of their 25 years together when his company relocated him in 2000. So when he moved from Virginia to Knoxville, Tenn., he left her behind.
At first, it wasn’t clear what would happen next. Would she follow him? Or would they end up divorced?

The answer: neither. “After a few months,” Mr. Frost said, “we both realized we liked it this way.”

Technically, the two are married. They file joint tax returns; she’s covered by his insurance. But they see each other just several times a year. “Since separating we get along better than we ever have,” he said. “It’s kind of nice.”

And at 58, he sees no reason to divorce. Their children have grown and left home. He asked himself: Why bring in a bunch of lawyers? Why create rancor when there’s nowhere to go but down?

“To tie a bow around it would only make it uglier,” Mr. Frost said. “When people ask about my relationship status, I usually just say: ‘It’s complicated. I like my wife, I just can’t live with her.’ ”

The term “trial separation” conjures a swift purgatory, something ducked into regretfully and escaped from with due speed, even if into that most conclusive of relationships, divorce. We understand the expeditious voyage from separation to divorce, the desire for a clear-cut ending that makes way for a clear-cut beginning. We hardly look askance at the miserably married or the exes who hurl epithets in divorce court.

But couples who stubbornly remain separated, sometimes for years? That leaves us dumbfounded. “I see it all the time,” said Lynne Gold-Bikin, a divorce lawyer in Norristown, Pa., who is the chairman of the family law department at Weber Gallagher. She can cite a docket of cases of endless separation.

With one couple separated since 1989, the wife’s perspective was, “We still get invited as Mr. and Mrs., we go to functions together, he still sends me cards,” Ms. Gold-Bikin said. As for the husband, “He cared for her, he just didn’t want to live with her.”

But at his girlfriend’s urging, he finally initiated divorce proceedings. Then he became ill and she began taking over his finances — a bit too wifelike for him. “He said, enough of this, there’s no reason to get divorced,” Ms. Gold-Bikin recalled.

Among those who seem to have reached a similar conclusion is Warren Buffett, the wealthy chairman of Berkshire Hathaway. Mr. Buffett separated from his wife, Susan, in 1977 but remained married to her until her death in 2004. All the while, he lived with Astrid Menks; they married in 2006. The threesome remained close, even sending out holiday cards signed, “Warren, Susan and Astrid.”

Also in the ranks of the un-divorced: the artist Willem de Kooning had been separated from his wife for 34 years when she died in 1989. Jann and Jane Wenner separated in 1995 after 28 years but are still married, despite Mr. Wenner’s romantic relationship with a man.

Society is full of whispered scenarios in which spouses live apart, in different homes or in the same mega-apartment in order to silence gossip, avoid ugly divorce battles and maintain the status quo, however uneasy. In certain cases, the world assumes a couple is divorced and never learns otherwise until an obituary puts the record straight.

Separations are usually de facto, rarely pounded out in a contract, and family law is different state to state. But even long-estranged couples are irrefutably bound by contractual links on issues like taxes, pensions, Social Security and health care.

Divorce lawyers and marriage therapists say that for most couples, the motivation to remain married is financial. According to federal law, an ex qualifies for a share of a spouse’s Social Security payment if the marriage lasts a decade. In the case of more amicable divorces, financial advisers and lawyers may urge a couple who have been married eight years to wait until the dependent spouse qualifies.

For others, a separation agreement may be negotiated so that a spouse keeps the other’s insurance until he or she is old enough for Medicare. If one person has an existing condition, obtaining affordable health care coverage is often difficult or impossible. The recession, with its real estate lows and health care expense highs, adds incentives to separate indefinitely.

Four years ago, Peggy Sanchez, 50, a Midwest resident, parted amicably from her husband, who has fibromyalgia.

“He would not get medical treatment if he weren’t on my insurance,” she said, and giving him that is less expensive than paying alimony. “Besides, I care about him and want to make sure he gets the medical help he needs,” she said.
There are still sticky issues: Ms. Sanchez’s boyfriend is unaware that she’s still married. Her daughter from a previous marriage views her husband as a father figure. And he got custody of the family dog. But Ms. Sanchez plans to stay separated.

“I don’t have much desire to remarry so there’s no benefit to me from divorce,” she said. “I guess that sounds pretty jaded, but it’s just not as important as it used to be.”

Sharon O’Neill, a marriage therapist in Mount Kisco, N.Y., has seen four cases in the last two years in which couples separated but stayed in the same home. In a depressed market, couples may not want to sell a house they purchased at the market’s height, or one party can’t maintain the mortgage or the other can’t afford a new home.

“The financial collapse has made people say, ‘Let’s not rush into a divorce, let’s see if we can make something else work,’ ” Ms. O’Neill said.

The added value of marriage is also hard to kick.

“Many people I’ve worked with over time enjoy the benefits of being married: the financial perks, the tax breaks, the health care coverage,” said Toni Coleman, a couples therapist in McLean, Va. “They maintain a friendship, they co-parent their kids, they may do things socially together. Sometimes they’re part of a political couple in Washington or have prominent corporate positions. But they just feel they can’t live together.”

What Ms. Coleman finds surprising is that the primary consideration is practical and financial, not familial. The effect of endless separations on the children rarely seems a priority.

“People split up and have these God-awful joint custody arrangements, so you would think that they stay separated for the kids’ sake, but I’m not seeing that,” she said. “It usually comes down to money.”

Others believe separation is easier on the children than is divorce. A 48-year-old social worker from Brooklyn, separated eight years, traded places with her husband in the same home, so that their children would not have to shuttle from one home to the other. The couple had an apartment where each would live when not at the family home.

“In hindsight, it was probably more confusing for the kids,” she said. “But we did it with their best interests in mind.”

But long-term separation can create big problems. If a couple isn’t divorced, their lives are still legally and financially intertwined. If your estranged husband goes on a spending spree, you’re responsible for the ensuing credit card debt. If you win the lottery, that’s community property. Finances can swing wildly, creating an alimony boon or a bombshell should one partner eventually want a divorce.

“I just had a situation where after 15 years of separation, the wife wanted to remarry,” said Elizabeth Lindsey, an Atlanta divorce lawyer. “But over the years, his assets had completely dissipated.” The wife would have profited from divorcing earlier.

A separation can also go on longer than anyone anticipated, even until death, leaving a mess for survivors. In New York State, for example, a spouse, even if separated, is entitled to a third of the partner’s estate.

There’s also the risk that you could lose track of your erstwhile partner altogether. “We see cases, usually with foreign nationals, where the husband goes back to the Philippines, and the wife wants to marry James but she’s still married to Ted,” said Steve Mindel, a managing partner at the Los Angeles law firm Feinberg Mindel Brandt & Klein. Judges now often require that a professional be hired to locate the spouse, to facilitate the divorce.

BUT more often than not, a delayed divorce simply reflects inertia. Celeste Liversidge, a divorce lawyer in Los Angeles, most frequently sees people who are avoiding an unpleasant task.

“It’s often so ugly,” she said. “People get to a point where they can’t live with each other but going through the divorce process is too painful.” A six-month separation turns into years.

One woman, a 39-year-old mother of two from Brooklyn, who like many interviewed for this article wished to remain anonymous, has stayed separated for nearly two years at the suggestion of five lawyers.

“There’s no advantage to getting divorced,” she said. Both she and her husband are in new relationships. Most people assume they’ve officially split. But given the health insurance issue and the prospect of legal fees, she said, “I feel like we could just drift on like this for years.”

Not being divorced is also an excuse not to remarry.

“In my day, we’d refer to a man as a bon vivant, a gadabout who doesn’t want to worry about marrying anyone else because he’s already married,” said Sheila Riesel, a New York divorce lawyer for more than three decades.

In the end, some people just don’t want to divorce. Perhaps one spouse desires it and the other drags his or her feet. Sometimes, people are just confused; separation can be a wake-up call.

In other cases, initiating divorce ultimately serves that purpose. Last year, a 67-year-old professor in New York filed for divorce from the man she married in 1969 and separated from in 1988 after she had an affair with a woman.

“I had images of Vita Sackville-West, but it was very messy and the children suffered a lot,” she recalled. “My husband had been more attached to me than I thought.”

And she considered him a pal; they even took vacations together. “I think I liked that we were still married in some way,” she admitted. “But last year I met someone who minds that I’m still married to someone else.”

And thus, time to divorce. Call it an old-fashioned romance.

Nude photo of Miley Cyrus got leaked

In Uncategorized on January 24, 2011 at 6:18 am

Miley Cyrus – Party In The U.S.A.

Miley Cyrus – The Climb


Small World

In Uncategorized on January 18, 2011 at 7:03 am

October 20, 2010
Small Worlds

Magnified 30 times, this is an image of a Hydropsyche angustipennis (caddisfly) larva head made by Fabrice Parais, of DREAL de Basse-Normandie in Caen, France. (Courtesy of Nikon Small World)

This 5th Place image of a Strelitzia reginae (bird of paradise) seed magnified 10 times comes from Viktor Sykora of the Institute of Pathophysiology, First Medical Faculty, Charles University in Prague, Czech Republic. This image was made with a stereomicroscopy technique called darkfield illumination. (Courtesy of Nikon Small World) #

Magnified 400 times, this is a 2-Photon fluorescence image of glial cells in the cerebellum. Glial cells provide support for the brain’s neurons. This image was made by Thomas Deerinck of the National Center for Microscopy and Imaging Research, University of California, San Diego. (Courtesy of Nikon Small World) #

The turbinate eyes of male mayfly magnified 10 times. Image made by Laurie Knight of Tonbridge, Kent, UK. (Courtesy of Nikon Small World) #

Seen at a magnification of 63x, this is an image of recrystallized sulfur made by Dr. Edward Leighman Gafford from Ventura, California. (Courtesy of Nikon Small World) #

Tiny bones are seen inside a the limbs of a developing Eleutherodactylus coqui (frog), magnified 20 times. Image made by Dr. Mike Klymkowsky of MCD Biology, University of Colorado, Boulder in Boulder, Colorado. (Courtesy of Nikon Small World) #

Two human cancer cells seen just before they divide into four cells, viewed at 100x magnification. This image of Telophase HeLa (cancer) cells expressing Aurora B-EGFP took 11th place and was made by Dr. Paul D. Andrews of the University of Dundee in Dundee, Scotland. (Courtesy of Nikon Small World) #

This 15th place image is of crystals of divaricatic acid extracted from Evernia divaricata (a lichen), which had been recrystallized from acetone and imaged at 10x magnification in polarized light. Image made by Dr. Ralf Wagner from Dusseldorf, Germany. (Courtesy of Nikon Small World) #

Magnified 100 times, a Mirabilis jalapa (four o’clock flower) stigma with pollen attached is seen. This 16th place image was made with epifluorescence and 3D reconstruction by Dr. Robert Markus Institute of Genetics, Biological Research Center of the Hungarian Academy of Sciences in Szeged, Hungary. (Courtesy of Nikon Small World) #

Jimi Hendrix Quotes

In Uncategorized on January 18, 2011 at 6:43 am

Jimi Hendrix Quotes
All I’m gonna do is just go on and do what I feel.
Jimi Hendrix

All I’m writing is just what I feel, that’s all. I just keep it almost naked. And probably the words are so bland.
Jimi Hendrix

Blues is easy to play, but hard to feel.
Jimi Hendrix

Even Castles made of sand, fall into the sea, eventually.
Jimi Hendrix

Every city in the world always has a gang, a street gang, or the so-called outcasts.
Jimi Hendrix

Excuse me while I kiss the sky.
Jimi Hendrix

I don’t have nothing to regret at all in the past, except that I might’ve unintentionally hurt somebody else or something.
Jimi Hendrix

I got a pet monkey called Charlie Chan.
Jimi Hendrix

I have this one little saying, when things get too heavy just call me helium, the lightest known gas to man.
Jimi Hendrix

I just hate to be in one corner. I hate to be put as only a guitar player, or either only as a songwriter, or only as a tap dancer. I like to move around.
Jimi Hendrix

I try to use my music to move these people to act.
Jimi Hendrix

I used to live in a room full of mirrors; all I could see was me. I take my spirit and I crash my mirrors, now the whole world is here for me to see.
Jimi Hendrix

I was trying to do too many things at the same time, which is my nature. But I was enjoying it, and I still do enjoy it.
Jimi Hendrix

I wish they’d had electric guitars in cotton fields back in the good old days. A whole lot of things would’ve been straightened out.
Jimi Hendrix

I’m gonna put a curse on you and all your kids will be born completely naked.
Jimi Hendrix

I’m the one that has to die when it’s time for me to die, so let me live my life, the way I want to.
Jimi Hendrix

I’ve been imitated so well I’ve heard people copy my mistakes.
Jimi Hendrix

If I’m free, it’s because I’m always running.
Jimi Hendrix

If it was up to me, there wouldn’t be no such thing as the establishment.
Jimi Hendrix

Imagination is the key to my lyrics. The rest is painted with a little science fiction.
Jimi Hendrix

In order to change the world, you have to get your head together first.
Jimi Hendrix

It all has to come from inside, though, I guess.
Jimi Hendrix

It’s funny how most people love the dead, once you’re dead your made for life.
Jimi Hendrix

It’s funny the way most people love the dead. Once you are dead, you are made for life.
Jimi Hendrix

Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens.
Jimi Hendrix

Music doesn’t lie. If there is something to be changed in this world, then it can only happen through music.
Jimi Hendrix

Music is a safe kind of high.
Jimi Hendrix

Music is my religion.
Jimi Hendrix

Music makes me high on stage, and that’s the truth. It’s like being almost addicted to music.
Jimi Hendrix

My goal is to be one with the music. I just dedicate my whole life to this art.
Jimi Hendrix

My nature just changes.
Jimi Hendrix

Rock is so much fun. That’s what it’s all about – filling up the chest cavities and empty kneecaps and elbows.
Jimi Hendrix

See, that’s nothing but blues, that’s all I’m singing about. It’s today’s blues.
Jimi Hendrix

Sometimes you want to give up the guitar, you’ll hate the guitar. But if you stick with it, you’re gonna be rewarded.
Jimi Hendrix

The reflection of the world is blues, that’s where that part of the music is at. Then you got this other kind of music that’s tryin’ to come around.
Jimi Hendrix

The story of life is quicker then the blink of an eye, the story of love is hello, goodbye.
Jimi Hendrix

The time I burned my guitar it was like a sacrifice. You sacrifice the things you love. I love my guitar.
Jimi Hendrix

To be with the others, you have to have your hair short and wear ties. So we’re trying to make a third world happen, you know what I mean?
Jimi Hendrix

We have time, there’s no big rush.
Jimi Hendrix

When I die, I want people to play my music, go wild and freak out and do anything they want to do.
Jimi Hendrix

When I die, just keep playing the records.
Jimi Hendrix

When I played God Bless The Queen, I was wondering if they was gonna dig us, then quite naturally I’d go on and try to get it together.
Jimi Hendrix

When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.
Jimi Hendrix

When things get too heavy, just call me helium, the lightest known gas to man.
Jimi Hendrix

When we go to play, you flip around and flash around and everything, and then they’re not gonna see nothin’ but what their eyes see. Forget about their ears.
Jimi Hendrix

White collar conservative flashin down the street, pointing that plastic finger at me, they all assume my kind will drop and die, but I’m gonna wave my freak flag high.
Jimi Hendrix

You don’t have to be singing about love all the time in order to give love to the people. You don’t have to keep flashing those words all the time.
Jimi Hendrix

You have to forget about what other people say, when you’re supposed to die, or when you’re supposed to be loving. You have to forget about all these things.
Jimi Hendrix

You have to give people something to dream on.
Jimi Hendrix

You have to go on and be crazy. Craziness is like heaven.
Jimi Hendrix